Getting a divorce is never pleasant, however, it can feel even worse during the holiday months. Trying to navigate Thanksgiving and Christmas can be not only stressful for splitting couples but also heartbreaking. We’ve put together a list of tips that can help you transition through a divorce during the holiday months.
Be Willing to Share the Holidays
During a divorce, it can be easy to focus solely on hurt feelings and quickly grow bitter. Too often, splitting couples grab on to any opportunity to fight back against their ex, using their children and friends to try to take some semblance of control in this situation. Rather than attempting to keep kids away from their other parent, try to work on making it a habit to share the holidays. Be willing to keep things civil so that you can enjoy your favorite holiday parties and get-togethers with your friends in this difficult time.
Try Not to Become Obsessed with the Divorce
Divorces are difficult for everyone and it’s easy to become fixated on them, thinking only about upcoming court cases and the broken bond. During the holiday season, don’t allow yourself to become obsessed with the upcoming divorce process. Instead, occupy your mind with the holidays – not your ex. Remember the meaning of the season and try to keep your mind fixed on your family, friends, and community. Recognize that you may battle feelings of depression, so show yourself kindness and talk to a counselor if necessary.
Embrace a New Normal
Holidays are full of traditions that you are probably used to sharing with your ex-partner. No longer having certain activities, family get-togethers, and traditions can seem heartbreaking. Rather than focusing on what you’ve lost, embrace a new normal, and the possibilities it brings with it. If you have children, continue to do as many traditional activities as possible while also adding in some fun new ones to help them transition. Replace things like get-togethers with your ex-partner’s in-laws by having a shopping spree with your friends or going to the movies.
Put Your Case into the Hands of a Trusted Attorney
During the holiday season, you don’t need to be fearful about upcoming court appearances and divorce proceedings. You can help to remove the stress from your holidays by putting your case into the hands of a trusted attorney. Our team is proud to serve a wide variety of clients through divorce finings, mediation proceedings, and many other services that make this decision less-stressful while also ensuring that you get what they deserve.
Should I Put Off a Divorce?
With the holidays quickly approaching, it can be easy to wonder if putting off a divorce is the best decision. While this is a personal choice that belongs to each couple, we generally suggest that people move forward with the process as quickly as possible. You will most likely be more settled and able to enjoy the holidays once you have started the proceedings rather than trying to force a happy marriage through the already stressful season.
If you are considering a divorce, contact our offices and discover how we can help you!