In a previous post, we talked about whether or not fighting for the house is a good idea for Philadelphia divorcees. One thing we didn’t address in that post is a co-parenting arrangement that’s gaining popularity around the country: nesting.
Nesting is an arrangement in which the divorcing parents keep the marital home so the children can live there. The kids keep sleeping in their own beds and they continue their routines. The parents rent a one-bedroom apartment and take turns living in the house with the kids. The kids get time with both parents and get to keep a familiar environment.
Is nesting better for kids?
The nesting arrangement is admirably child-centric. Entertaining this option demonstrates a pair of parents who really are trying to put their children first. According to Psychology Today children definitely do better when they get to keep their routines in place, so long as the parents don’t use the nesting arrangement as an excuse to launch new fights.
But there are some things to consider before you dive right in.
What are the financial implications of nesting?
Some parents find they save some money by nesting, but you’ll want to carefully evaluate the situation with your financial advisor. (You did get yourself a financial advisor, right?)
You will also want to work with your lawyer to carefully construct the settlement agreements. Who will pay the bills on the home? Who will pay for maintenance when the house needs a new roof or a plumbing repair?
A nesting arrangement could also realistically have impacts on child support and spousal support. Whether these impacts are positive or negative will depend upon the specifics of your case.
Do Philadelphia judges support nesting?
Much depends on the judge.
Nesting is relatively new. It first showed up in a Virginia court in 2000. The case was Lamont v. Lamont, and the judge is the one who came up with the arrangement.
Philadelphia judges are always going to opt for the arrangement they feel is in the best interests of the child. If you are able to sustain amicable communication with your spouse this arrangement may work. If you have a contentious, stormy divorce a fraught arrangement like nesting might not work, and may even put additional stress and strain on the children.
If you are open to nesting be sure to discuss it with your legal team. The attorneys here at Sadek and Cooper are standing by to help you. Call today for your free consultation.